I have six women to buy for every year and I had completely run out of ideas.
Six reasons a thirty-nine dollar bracelet got me a phone call, when a hundred and eighty dollar present got me a text back saying thanks.
Nancy Brooks · Customer · Melbourne, VIC · 5 min read
Two daughters, a sister, a daughter-in-law, my oldest friend and my mother-in-law. Birthdays, Christmas, Mother's Day. Somewhere around six presents a year that have to be right, and after a certain number of years you have used up everything you can think of.
So you start buying by price instead. That is what I had been doing without admitting it. If I could not think of anything, I spent more, on the theory that the money would say what I could not. Last year that meant a hundred and eighty dollars on something lovely for my sister, and a text back the next day saying thanks Nance, it's beautiful. Which it was. It is in a box in her spare room, I would put money on it.
Then in March I sent her a leather bracelet with three birds on it that cost thirty-nine dollars and ninety-nine cents. She rang me the day it arrived. Not texted. Rang.
I have given twelve of them now. Here is why this one works as a present when better and dearer things do not.
You do not have to explain it, because she does that herself
This is the whole thing and everything else is detail. It is a small picture of three birds sitting together on a branch, and every woman who opens one immediately decides for herself who the three of them are. My sister decided it was us and our mother. My daughter decided it was her and her two girls. I did not write any of that on a card, and I would not have known how to. That is the difficulty with a card, isn't it. You either say the thing plainly and feel foolish, or you write "love always, Mum" for the thirtieth year running. The birds do it for you, and she gets to decide what was meant, which is better than anything I could have written.
"My sister opened it and said 'that's the three of us'. I had not told her anything."
It turns up ready to hand over
It comes in a small kraft box on tissue, with a plain tag, and that is genuinely the end of the job. No wrapping at eleven at night, no hunting for a gift bag that has not already got somebody else's name on it. I have posted them straight on twice without opening the box myself, which I would not do with something that arrived in a courier satchel looking like an order.
"Arrived boxed and ready. I wrote the tag and posted it on the same afternoon."
It fits her without you having to know her size
Half the reason I stopped giving jewellery is that I do not know anybody's measurements and I am not going to ask, because asking ruins it. Rings are hopeless. Bangles either slide off or will not go over the hand. This has a lobster clasp on an extender chain with three or four links of adjustment, so it fits a small wrist and it fits a fuller one. Of the twelve I have given, not one has come back to me as the wrong size, and my daughters and my mother-in-law are not remotely the same build.
"Bought three for three very different wrists. All three fitted."
She actually wears it, which is the whole point
A present that goes in a drawer is money you have set on fire politely. What makes this one get worn is that there is nothing to manage. It weighs almost nothing, so she forgets it is on. Brown leather and aged silver does not fight her gold, so she does not have to think about whether it goes. It makes no noise on a table and it does not leave a green mark on a warm day. My sister has had hers on since March. My mother-in-law, who is not a jewellery person at all, wears hers to the shops.
"Gave one to Mum in July. She has not taken it off since, and she never wears anything."
Under forty dollars, so it does not become an occasion
This sounds like a small point and it is not. When you spend a lot on somebody, they feel it, and then there is a whole business of them having to match you next time. I have watched that go back and forth with my sister-in-law for years. At $39.99 you can send one for no reason at all, in the middle of March, because you thought of her. Nobody feels they owe you anything. It stays a nice thing instead of turning into an arrangement.
"Sent one to a friend having a rough month. She cried. It cost me forty dollars."
It solved the person I had genuinely run out of ideas for
Everybody has one. Mine is my mother-in-law, who is eighty-one, wants for nothing, and says please don't go to any trouble in a way that means it. Scarves, candles, a nice tea, all of it received kindly and none of it needed. The birds landed differently, because she has three children and she worked out what it was before I said a word. That is the only present I have given her in a decade that she brought up again afterwards.
"Bought one for myself and two as gifts. My sister rang me the day hers arrived."
One honest note before the price
This is not fine jewellery and you should not give it as though it were. It is leather and a silver-toned charm, not sterling, and it is not something she will hand on to her daughter. She should keep it out of the shower and out of the pool, the way you would with any leather. If you are marking a wedding or a sixtieth and it needs to be an heirloom, buy an heirloom. This is for the other twenty presents a year, which is most of them.
The presents I used to give, against the one I give now
I have been buying for the same six women for a long time. Here is the difference, laid out plainly, and it is not really about the money.
- Lovely, and it says nothing in particular
- You have to write the card that explains it
- Guesswork on her size, or a gift receipt
- Dear enough that she feels she owes you
- Worn twice, then kept in the box it came in
- Three birds she reads her own way, unprompted
- Says the thing you could not write down
- Extender chain, so it fits whatever wrist she has
- Under forty dollars, so nobody owes anybody
- Boxed and tagged, and actually worn afterwards
About the price
It is $39.99, down from $79.99, and I will be honest that the price is what made me hesitate at first. You do not want to be seen to have gone cheap on your own sister. But that worry turned out to be entirely mine. What she noticed was the three birds. She has never once thought about what it cost, and I have thought about it a great deal less since she rang me.
Cute Home say the sale pricing comes from selling direct with no middleman taking a cut. That is their arithmetic, not mine. Mine is that I now buy three at a time and keep two in the sideboard, because there is always somebody, and the year has a way of arriving all at once.
If there is a woman you have run out of ideas for, this is the one I would send her. She will decide what it means, and you will not have to say a word.
— Nancy
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- Three-bird charm she reads her own way, no card needed
- Arrives boxed on tissue with a tag, ready to give
- Lobster clasp with extender chain, so you need not know her size
- Soft double leather cord, light and silent on the wrist
- Brown and silver, so it suits her gold and her silver both
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About the writer. Nancy Brooks lives in Melbourne, VIC. She writes occasionally about the small things she has actually kept using. She is not affiliated with Cute Home beyond being a customer.
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